You no playa da game, you no maka da rules

Charles Winecoff at Big Hollywood has lots of thoughts on the lesbian and gay community and gay marriage tonight. He asks, “When did the gay community get so mean?” Charles, I came out in 1972 and I have a question for you: “When was the gay and lesbian community EVER nice?” Because I can’t think …

How Robert Stacy McCain became irresistible to men

Thanks to the avalanche of comments rebutting my assertion that straight women’s porn is not photos of naked, hot men but rather photos of chocolate cakes, any other dessert and attractive women in stylish clothes, by which I mean Cuban Diva BFF going ballistic, today I have a delectable specimen of beefcake in the dripping …

Does Ross Douthat denounce porn so he can deduct his collection as a business expense?

I have just belatedly learned that our dear Stacy McCain has given up Ross Douthat-bashing for Lent! I gather the problem is that he is relinquishing something that gives him pleasure — I’ll have to ask the Anchoress — while Douthat annoys me like a big, slow-moving fly when I already have a rolled-up newspaper …

Why can't I own Canadians?

I originally planned this post on the unchanging Bible and homosexuality to be about Dr. Laura and her flip from Orthodox Judaism to evangelical Christianity, but the pertinent quote from Eric Hoffer’s The True Believer is too heavy and needs its own post. Also, today I came across a post by dear Stacy McCain railing …

How Stacy McCain became irresistible to women

It was a balmy, sunny day at Rehobeth Beach, Delaware, and Stacy McCain was walking on the sparkling beach when he spied a dark metal handle of something that looked like a gravy boat sticking up out of the sand. He pulled it out for closer examination. As Stacy brushed off the sand and rubbed …

How to turn around blighted neighborhoods for free, the conservative way

As a minority, lesbians and gays have few, if any, friends and allies willing to expend political capital on our behalf — although other minorities accept all the golden eggs we produce for them with endless handfuls of gimme and mouths full of “much obliged.” We also have less family support than any other minority …

Adoption for lesbians and gays doesn't mean what social conservatives think it means

I have the impression, from a very small sample of evangelical families, including one I have known many years, that their religious leaders urge them to adopt children as a way of adding more converts to their flock. I expect, if this is true, that they press this cause in more idealistic terms. But, from …

Michael Steele's Rush Limbaugh gaffe and how to go forward to victory

Little Miss Attila kindly asked me what I thought of this post at her blog, and here is my answer: My concern with Steeleā€™s put-down of Limbaugh is that it makes me question his personality, his judgment and his qualifications for the job of chairman of the Republican National Committee, which Rush correctly pointed out …

Gay marriage as Penelope's web vs. Nixon to China

Here’s the thing about getting gay marriage legalized — it makes a LOT more sense for me to engage conservatives on the issue than liberal Democrats because I only have to educate conservatives about the “gay” part of the issue and joyfully, that work not only stays done, but actually begins to multiply itself virally …

Gay marriage

During the hospitalization in September 2004 when we found out that my life partner, Margaret Ardussi, was dying, one of the nurses commented to me on our devotion to one another and then said, “I’ve only seen that level of devotion from gay couples.” Wow. I believe that legalizing gay marriage will strengthen the institution, …