Co-author of DOMA admits that marriage has always had a legal definition apart from religion

Dear Ed Morrissey or dear Allahpundit at Hot Air gave me a busy evening by linking in the Hot Air Headlines my post below on Hawaii Gov. Lingle’s veto of a new law that would allow civil unions for same-sex partners. (Psssst! Who can tell me what the number to the right of the headline in the Hot Air Headlines means?)

And, yes, I know the subject of same-sex marriage equality is lively because of the pair of decisions by Massachusetts Judge Joseph Tauro yesterday declaring section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) invalid. Gabriel Malor of Ace of Spades HQ has the most useful summary, as well as links to the PDFs of the decisions:

A federal district court judge in Boston just released decisions in two cases: Gill v. OPM and Massachusetts v. Department of Health and Human Services.

DOMA section 3 sets the federal definition for marriage as only between a man and a woman. It similarly defines for federal purposes the meaning of the word “spouse.” DOMA section 2, which was not at issue in these lawsuits and remains undisturbed, provides that states need not recognize gay marriages from other states.

In Gill the judge held that DOMA section 3 violates equal protection principles entrenched in the Fifth Amendment right to due process [sic — note by CY: I think Gabriel intended to cite the Fourteenth Amendment, which has the Due Process and Equal Protection clauses].

In the other case, the judge held that DOMA section 3 violates the Tenth Amendment:

This court has determined that it is clearly within the authority of the Commonwealth to recognize same-sex marriages among its residents, and to afford those individuals in same-sex marriages any benefits, rights, and privileges to which they are entitled by virtue of their marital status. The federal government, by enacting and enforcing DOMA, plainly encroaches upon the firmly entrenched province of the state, and, in doing so, offends the Tenth Amendment. For that reason, the statute is invalid.

Ed Morrissey at Hot Air questioned the application of the Tenth Amendment “in the case of Medicaid coverage.” Medicaid is health insurance for the extremely poor, and the disabled poor under 65, paid for by a combination of federal and state money. I think Ed might have been responding to a mistake in the CBS News story that he linked because Medicaid is not a federal benefit that heterosexual married couples can obtain without enormous hardship for reasons I explain below (boldfacing mine):

The state had argued the law denied benefits such as Medicaid to gay married couples in Massachusetts, where same-sex unions have been legal since 2004.

Tauro agreed, and said the act forces Massachusetts to discriminate against its own citizens.

“The federal government, by enacting and enforcing DOMA, plainly encroaches upon the firmly entrenched province of the state, and in doing so, offends the Tenth Amendment. For that reason, the statute is invalid,” Tauro wrote in a ruling in a lawsuit filed by Attorney General Martha Coakley.

Ruling in a separate case filed by Gays & Lesbian Advocates & Defenders, Tauro found that DOMA violates the equal protection clause of the U.S. Constitution.

“We’ve maintained from the very beginning that there was absolutely no basis for this law treating one class of married Massachusetts couples different from everybody else and the court has recognized that,” said Gary Buseck, GLAD’s legal director.

The Justice Department argued the federal government has the right to set eligibility requirements for federal benefits — including requiring that those benefits only go to couples in marriages between a man and a woman.

The law was enacted by Congress in 1996 when it appeared Hawaii would soon legalize same-sex marriage and opponents worried that other states would be forced to recognize such marriages. The lawsuit challenges only the portion of the law that prevents the federal government from affording pension and other benefits to same-sex couples.

How ironic is it that part of DOMA is struck down the same week that Hawaii’s governor vetoed the law DOMA was created to thwart 14 years earlier?

However, let’s get back to the federal definition of marriage and how that affects the eligibility of same-sex spouses for federal benefits and programs in the five states and the District of Columbia where same-sex marriage is legal. Federal pensions are an example of such a benefit. Medicaid is not, for the simple reason that Medicaid is a preventer and destroyer of marriage because it is a means-tested program where both spouses’ incomes are counted.

Tax attorneys actually advise elderly people to divorce to protect their assets when one spouse is likely to need nursing home care within a few years, so that the community spouse — the term for the spouse who can still live in the community independently — is able to afford his or her living expenses. The alternative is that the couple must spend down their assets to provide for the care of the sick spouse to an amount set in 1974 and not adjusted for inflation since: $2500, not including their house.

My reaction to bringing up Medicaid is a tangential one that I raised a few months ago after Obamacare was passed: the  asteroid hurtling from space that is big enough to make marriage extinct in America is Obamacare’s means-tested health insurance, which will destroy marriage even faster than the Great Society’s “man in the house” rule for means-tested welfare assistance destroyed marriage for poor blacks.

OK, that’s the background for the point I originally set out to make, which is that in an essay at the National Review Online, Hadley Arkes, one of the architects of the Defense of Marriage Act, concedes a fundamental point in the discussion over whether marriage is a religious ceremony and therefore can only properly be defined by religions:

The hard fact of the matter is that marriage has been part of the very matrix of the law ever since there have been laws.

THANK YOU, Prof. Arkes! Marriage can therefore quite properly be defined by governments.

However, Prof. Arkes mounts a tautological and inadequate defense of his main point, that DOMA was about defending marriage rather than, as he quotes Judge Tauro, “for the one purpose that lies entirely outside of legislative bounds, to disadvantage a group of which it [Congress] disapproves.” The thing that keeps bringing people to see defining marriage to exclude same-sex couples as disadvantaging them is the long, long, long list of federal rights — 1,138 — denied to same-sex couples, plus the hundreds of rights under the laws of each state. And the thing that keeps focusing attention on the idea that this is being done simply on the basis of disapproval has to do with religion being used as the basis of the objections.

I’m also amused that Prof. Arkes set up his argument via the straw men of “activist judges” intent on, as he accuses Judge Tauro, “imposing same-sex marriage on the nation as a whole” — as if heterosexuals were going to be forced into same-sex marriages in some hellish future, the same way that lesbians and gays get forced into heterosexual marriages now and historically. The reason that there’s no judicial activism to this whatsoever is because it is the duty of the courts to protect the equality of minorities, such as lesbians and gays, especially when their equality stands little or no chance of existing under majority rule — that is why we have the judicial branch as a check on the legislative and executive branches, and even on the will of the people, as in the case of Prop. 8.

But kudoes to Prof. Arkes for once and for all establishing that marriage can be defined by governments as legitimately as by religions. Although, if we have to, lesbians and gays totally will go to the labor of establishing a new religion that has our equality as one of its fundamental tenets. So we’re good, now, either way.

Gov. Lingle’s rationale for vetoing civil unions for gays validates the point that there’s no such thing as ‘separate but equal’

Hawaii’s Republican Gov. Linda Lingle vetoed Hawaii’s civil union law on July 6 with a rationale that marks the tipping point toward acknowledging that same-sex couples are entitled to use the word “marriage”:

“There has not been a bill I have contemplated more or an issue I have thought more deeply about during my eight years as governor than House Bill 444 and the institution of marriage,” Lingle said at a news conference. “I have been open and consistent in my opposition to same-sex marriage, and find that House Bill 444 is essentially same-sex marriage by another name.”

The bill would have granted gay and lesbian couples the same rights and benefits the state provides to married couples.

She said voters, not politicians, should decide the fate of civil unions.

“It would be a mistake to allow a decision of this magnitude to be made by one individual or a small group of elected officials,” she said.

Since civil unions are only equal if they confer exactly the same rights and responsibilities of heterosexual marriage, there’s really no reason to use another term. So I’m glad we cleared that up.

As for whether “to allow a decision of this magnitude to be made by one individual or a small group of elected officials,” isn’t that the purpose of a democratic republic?

This is why lesbians and gays truly MUST seek equality through the courts. We are a minority and we are not going to win or maintain victories when our equality rests on a majority vote. A coalition of religions — Mormon, Catholic and evangelical Protestant — profit from controlling the reproductive lives of their members and whenever they cannot get their religious beliefs enacted into law, they seek to thwart laws that would provide the equality that it benefits them to withhold. The thing is, while they are entitled to use persuasion to do this to their own members, they are not entitled to appropriate the powers of force over an entire population that civil government possesses. It really is time to start questioning social conservatives on their loyalty to the U.S. Constitution — the factions on the Right that seek to establish their church as the law of the land are doing as much damage to America as the Leftists who are working to overthrow capitalism and establish socialism in its place. Worse than that, these social conservatives very often are fiscal liberals whose economic policies are just as destructive to capitalism as the Left’s.

P.S.

It recently occurred to me that Americans have the liberty to change their religions any time they want and they are protected from being forced to adopt the religion of the majority, or any religion they do not freely choose. Yet the current arguments supporting equality for lesbians and gays compare sexual orientation to traits people cannot change — for example, skin color. I know I cannot change my sexual orientation, but equality-wise and liberty-wise, it seems just as appropriate to compare sexual orientation to religion — a trait that you choose — to justify it as deserving of equality and protection from discrimination.

Update, 7/9/2010, Fri.: Thank you, Hot Air Headlines, for the link! Commenters, you do not have to agree with me to get your comment approved for publication, but you do have to be courteous. This is a respectable blog. Also, since your e-mail address will not be published publicly and since I will keep it confidential, please be aware that comments from fake e-mail addresses are less likely to be published.

I just left the following comment in the comment section regarding this post at Hot Air:

The Constitutional separation of church and state protects religions in the U.S. from any laws intended to force them to violate or change their beliefs or practices. So all religions in the U.S. that do not want to perform gay marriages will never have to do so as long as our Constitution is upheld.

Also, there is no need for lesbians and gays to force any religion to perform same-sex marriage ceremonies. We already have at least one religion that will. As I note in a reply to a comment at my post, which is the subject of this discussion, I mark the beginning of the movement for lesbian and gay equality as being Oct. 6, 1968, the date of the founding of the Metropolitan Community Church by the openly gay Rev. Troy Perry. If we need more religions that recognize our equality, we will found them. Gays and lesbians are very self-reliant that way.

The coalition of churches — Mormon, Catholic and Evangelical Protestant — that are the most active in fighting equality for lesbians and gays are not being honest when they use scare tactics to frighten people into believing our equality threatens religious liberty. What they really are seeking to protect is the flood of government money flowing into their coffers and funding their daily operating expenses thanks to the various enterprises they have founded and operate for this purpose — adoption services, hospitals, charities and so on. Equality for lesbians and gays will indeed mean that they cannot take government money AND maintain discriminatory practices, such as refusing services to lesbians and gays, or refusing to hire lesbians and gays. However, as long as they operate on their own property and on their own dime, they can refuse services and employment to lesbians and gays to their hearts’ content.

Oh — and regarding the definition of marriage — it really already varies considerably by religion. Protestant, Catholic and Mormon definitions of marriage are all quite different. For example, <a href=”http://www.ldschurchtemples.com/mormon/marriage/”>Mormons believe that the only true marriage is celestial marriage, which can only be created in a Mormon temple between Mormons</a>. Access to the temple, called a “temple recommend,” requires pleasing church superiors with regard to a detailed list of behaviors, including donations. Anyone married outside of a Mormon temple, including Mormons, is participating in a spiritually inferior union.

The more I read about the objections to equality for lesbians and gays, including same-sex marriage equality, the more I see Mormon ideology being used to frame the discussion, especially when it comes to talking about the definition of marriage being reserved to religions so a separate term, “civil unions,” must be used for the inferior ceremony for the inferior people who have different religious beliefs. It is a stealthy way of getting people to concede a fundamental tenet of Mormonism, which is that only a Mormon temple marriage really is sacred. So — who is really re-defining marriage?

Apple’s iPhone 4 vs. Sprint’s HTC Evo

The two animations below are from the same writer and give the pros and cons of Apple’s iPhone 4 and Sprint’s HTC Evo. The first one was linked last week at The Atlantic and I found the second one when I was browsing on YouTube. I advise against eating or drinking while you watch either — and if you’re over 40, have a pee first, just to be safe.

The following video favors the HTC Evo — my first job out of college was selling medium high-end stereo equipment and I can relate to the salesman’s frustration:

The second video favors the Apple iPhone 4:

A Conservative Lesbian is back!

I’ve only posted twice since June 18, 2010, because I lost the ability to function as the admin of A Conservative Lesbian — that is, publish posts, approve comments, upgrade my theme, etc. — when I upgraded to WordPress 3.0 using the “Upgrade” button in my Dashboard, which is the back end of WordPress where I compose posts and control the appearance of the blog. Resetting permissions, Googling, searching the WordPress support forum didn’t help and the assistance I wrote about on June 22 didn’t produce a lasting solution, for no apparent reason. I had not backed up my files and WordPress database before clicking the “Upgrade” button, so I could not revert to WordPress 2.9.2.

Finally I decided to appeal to Tammy Hanson, of A Mom and Her Blog, and put the problem in her capable hands. She determined the problem was in the database, which is where all of a WordPress blog’s posts and comments live. Tammy exported all the posts and comments, but we were both loathe to erase the database and then rebuild it and import all the data back into it. However, I have been wanting to be like the cool kids with no “www” and “/aclblog” subdirectories in the URL for A Conservative Lesbian for some time. To do that, A Conservative Lesbian has to be in its own hosting package, so I purchased one. Tammy is handling the move and I hope we’ll have the blog re-built by tomorrow afternoon. That’s why it looked different for awhile today.

The new address of A Conservative Lesbian is http://aconservativelesbian.com.

If you have commented here over the last two weeks, please do not be offended that your comments were not approved. I never saw them. All I received were e-mails notifying me that a comment had been left, but with no text at all and no e-mail address of the sender. No comments came into the blog, so nothing appeared in the Dashboard to approve.

I have some extremely important posts planned for the next few days, so be sure to check back tomorrow evening. Thank you, dear gentle readers, for sticking with me!

Apparently there are instructions for how to upgrade to WordPress 3.0 for a reason

Bottomline: that seductive looking “Upgrade” button in the WordPress dashboard that makes you think you can get away with just clicking it — and lulls you into a false sense of security by saying the upgrade was successful — do NOT click it unless you’ve done all the tasks in the WordPress Codex instructions for upgrading firstespecially the back-ups, and, ahem, then regarding reports of a successful installation, trust but verify.

Bonus tip: if you have set your Web host to back up your SQL database and blog files automatically, make sure it’s actually done that and then copy a few days of back-ups to your hard drive (both your files AND your SQL database). And another bonus tip: it doesn’t hurt to make sure your theme is compatible with WordPress 3.0 BEFORE you upgrade — or so I’ve heard.

I’m not sure if I got caught in WordPress permissions hell, or what, but my blog would not let me post, approve comments, or change any settings. However, after a couple of hours on the phone with a very patient and resourceful young lady in my Web host’s tech support department this afternoon, who then bumped my case up a level, I find tonight that I can post, and God willing, have full control of my blog again. I am so grateful!

My dear gentle readers, I missed you.

The right to turn off a pacemaker

I was browsing Twitter this morning and spotted a tweet by Jimmy Bise linking a post by Stacy McCain, who was connecting a New York Times piece about anosognosia to choice of political parties. “Anosognosia” describes the dilemma where you don’t know what you don’t know, which is why stupid people are not smart enough to know that they are stupid. Stacy sees this as an explanation for why some people are Democrats.

However, the piece at the New York Times that really got my attention was a headline in the sidebar: “What Broke My Father’s Heart.” It describes one woman’s unsuccessful quest to help her mother navigate the healthcare system to allow her father to have his pacemaker turned off so that he could die comfortably in hospice care.

This gave me quite the shot of adrenalin because my father’s life was saved in December 2008 by a pacemaker/defibrillator. I knew before it was installed that it is possible to turn them off to allow someone to die peacefully. Dad has made it very clear to his geriatrician that he wants hospice care when his time comes but the sentences I boldfaced below have sent me on a mission to review this possibility with him, in case we need to re-write Dad’s durable medical power-of-attorney :

From page 5 of the essay:

Over the next five months, my mother and I learned many things. We were told, by the Hemlock Society’s successor, Compassion and Choices, that as my father’s medical proxy, my mother had the legal right to ask for the withdrawal of any treatment and that the pacemaker was, in theory at least, a form of medical treatment. We learned that although my father’s living will requested no life support if he were comatose or dying, it said nothing about dementia and did not define a pacemaker as life support. We learned that if we called 911, emergency medical technicians would not honor my father’s do-not-resuscitate order unless he wore a state-issued orange hospital bracelet. We also learned that no cardiology association had given its members clear guidance on when, or whether, deactivating pacemakers was ethical.

From page 6 of the essay: (Last month that changed. The Heart Rhythm Society and the American Heart Association issued guidelines declaring that patients or their legal surrogates have the moral and legal right to request the withdrawal of any medical treatment, including an implanted cardiac device. It said that deactivating a pacemaker was neither euthanasia nor assisted suicide, and that a doctor could not be compelled to do so in violation of his moral values. In such cases, it continued, doctors “cannot abandon the patient but should involve a colleague who is willing to carry out the procedure.” This came, of course, too late for us.)

FYI, if you want someone to be able to make medical decisions for you when you can’t make them for yourself, the instrument to create is a durable medical power-of-attorney, NOT a living will. A living will is just evidence of heroic measures you don’t want to have, but it doesn’t allow someone to direct your care according to your values.

The author of the piece, Katy Butler, strikes me as an unresourceful person who was passive about her father’s end-of-life care, no matter how much she says she Googled. She unwittingly describes blunder after blunder that she made, or did not stir herself sufficiently to prevent her mother from making. For one thing, her father had the right to refuse medical care, so she could have fired the cardiologist who refused to turn off the pacemaker and replaced him with the hospice doctor, who really should have been in charge of her father’s care totally once he was admitted to hospice. She also does not say why her father was transported from home hospice care to the hospital when he developed pneumonia and she does not say whether he remained in hospice care in the hospital. If the end is coming and you panic and call 911, then you are back in the acute care system and deserve your wretched fate from completely inappropriate care.

On the other hand, if Butler’s father was receiving hospice care in the hospital — that is, comfort care such as medication for pain and anxiety and oxygen to treat air hunger — then I have no patience with Butler’s self-pity and rage with the system that her father took five days to die. Death is not pretty and it does not care about your busy schedule. Pain is one of the measures Death applies to get you to let go of life and to make your loved ones willing to release you. From the dying loved ones whom I have attended, it looks to me like our souls look back on their current life, and forward to the next life, back and forth, back and forth, as if they are gathering their wits and summoning their courage to make the leap. Pain medications, titrated to the extreme, mind-boggling amounts of pain associated with dying, seem to help this process rather than hastening it. The duty of caregivers at this time is to attend to their dying loved one by providing every comfort in their power, by creating an environment of peace and courage and by letting the dying process take as long as it takes.

I am going to have to be doing this again, soon.

P.S.

If you have a pacemaker, or provide care for a loved one who does, here’s info from the American Medical Association (the article has many useful links):

It is legal and ethical to honor patient requests to deactivate implanted cardiac devices, and physicians should take the initiative in talking with terminally ill patients and their families about turning off the devices, according to a new expert panel consensus statement released in May.

Implantable cardioverter-defibrillators, or ICDs, can impose a particularly heavy burden on terminally ill patients, continuing to send electrical shocks as the patient dies. [Note from CY: These shocks feel like a mule kick to the chest.]

(snip)

Nearly three-fifths of hospices reported patients getting shocked by their ICDs within the past year, said a March 2 Annals of Internal Medicine study. Only 10% of the 414 hospices surveyed had policies on deactivating ICDs, and 58% of the terminally ill patients who received shocks did not have their devices turned off.

The Heart Rhythm Society panel, which included representatives from the American College of Cardiology, the American Geriatrics Society, the American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Medicine, and the American Heart Assn., set out to address the problem by clarifying the legal and ethical status of deactivating cardiac devices. The consensus statement also advises physicians on how to communicate with patients and families about whether to turn off a device.

There are no court cases dealing directly with deactivating heart devices, but the legal and ethical principle that patients and their surrogates have the right to refuse care is solidly grounded, said panel member George J. Annas.

“The closest and most controversial cases are the feeding tube cases. When you take out the feeding tube, you know the patient is going to die,” said Annas, chair of the Dept. of Health Law, Bioethics & Human Rights at Boston University School of Public Health. “Every court has looked at these cases and said, ‘It’s medical technology.’ You can refuse a ventilator, you can refuse a feeding tube, you can refuse anything.”

Patients have the right to refuse care, said Richard A. Zellner, a retired lawyer who served as the panel’s patient representative. He had five implanted heart devices over 14 years before getting a heart transplant in 2006.

“The patient has a right to say, ‘I don’t want any more treatment,’ ” said Zellner, an adjunct lecturer in the Case Western Reserve University Dept. of Bioethics in Ohio. “When the patient says, ‘I’ve had enough,’ that’s enough.”

I promise a post is coming soon with photos of my heirloom tomato plants.

Ace: 'Facts change minds'

Ace has written a couple of excellent posts about what Congressman Joe Barton should have said instead of apologizing the BP CEO Tony Heyward. I particularly like the following observation from Ace, which he added after his list of questions that Congressman Barton should have asked Mr. Heyward (boldfacing mine):

Arguments don’t change mind. Theories don’t change minds. Rhetoric doesn’t change minds.

Facts change mind. Facts.

That’s why internet traffic doesn’t spike just because Charles Krauthammer has a good video up, or Ann Coulter wrote a trenchant column, but instead spikes when a scandalous political story is breaking.

Because everyone knows that if opinions are going to change dramatically in this country, it will be fresh facts, not fresh arguments (and not oft-repeated arguments, certainly) that will do it.

The internet slows down when a Big Fact is coming down the tubes. Because everyone recognizes the power of a new fact. We either wait for it excitedly or dread it coming, but we all know, it could change things.

In any breaking story, a news junkie skips past the channels that are offering analysis and more talking headery and goes to the one that seems to be offering fresh fact.

Every big blog day I’ve had wasn’t due to analysis or commentary, or even attacking commenters. It was due to a big news, new fact.

I just do not understand how everyone knows this, intuitively, and yet doesn’t seem to really know it all.

This is timely for me as I make the conservative case for lesbian and gay equality — it gives me the target to hit: fresh facts. And I DO have them. Come to think of it, it was exposure to facts during the 2008 presidential campaign that converted me to fiscal conservatism. Hmmmm.

See Ed Morrissey at Hot Air for the background on how Barton’s attempt to make Obama accountable for his “shakedown” of BP for the $20 billion escrow fund/Democrat corruption lottery prize went … awry.

I'm AWOL until the tomatoes are planted

I expect to finish getting my heirloom tomatoes planted tomorrow. I am sorry I’ve been AWOL most of the last week. I’m also sorry I thought the “Thrust in the Lord” post was funny — I have vacillated about deleting it but I think it will be better to update it with my apology and my reasons for apologizing. I’ll approve the backlog of comments as soon as I have that done.

I am sobered by the realization today that I need to get into much better physical shape to be able to handle activities like gardening and still have energy and clarity to write. I will have something to say about that, too. Thank you for your patience.