Comments on: If he's just not that into her, he's a FOOL!

By: Update on ‘If he’s just not that into her, he’s a FOOL!’ — Cynthia Yockey

Sun, 29 Mar 2009 04:44:59 +0000

[...] OK, if I didn’t have the cute photo I might not be writing this update about Cuban Diva BFF’s blind date awhile back — the one that never happened. [...]

By: Steve Poling

Steve Poling — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 00:30:02 +0000

I think that unless he’s got a backstory that’s something out of “Burn Notice,” you should cut your losses. If you’re feeling confrontational, and charitable, you could trot out all the things that you interpreted as mixed messages, then ask what he would make of it. Directness is a whole lot better than wondering. Most likely, there’s been some talking-past one another. Or worse, he’s expecting something that you could only discern via mind-reading.

By: Cuban Diva BFF

Cuban Diva BFF — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 00:23:28 +0000

Hey Steve,
I agree, directness IS indicated. If he made plans to see me Friday night, he should keep them, make alternate plans, or cancel, none of which he did. So instead of allowing us the opportunity to get to know each other through the third or forth date, he blew it.
All he really had to do was show up, which everyone knows accounts for 80 percent of all success.

By: Steve Poling

Steve Poling — Fri, 13 Mar 2009 20:16:30 +0000

Cut the guy some slack. Maybe he’s just inept. Guys get wrapped around the axle solving problems and remain oblivious to the subtext. OR maybe he’s afraid she’s just not into him and he’s doing counterproductive stuff because of those fears. Dating should be a means of getting to know someone, but the mind-games make that impossible until the third or fourth date. Directness is indicated.